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#1 Ashley820403

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 04:37 PM

Hi Everyone. My name is Ashley and I'm 26 yrs. I need some advice. I started my period when I was around 14/15 yrs. old. Since then, I've for the most part had "normal" 28-day cycles that last 6-7 days.  After a couple of years being with my spouse, we made the decision to marry and start a family.  After years of having a normal period, as luck would have it, I haven't had a period almost a year now.  At first, when my period never came, I was excited that possibly I was already pregnant.  That wasn't the case.  As the months passed by, I started to realize little things that weren't normal, and after rethinking my concerns and the thought that my period just up'd and disappeared - - I decided to get back on birth control pills to see if I could "trick" my period to come back to regain a "normal" cycle. ((FYI- they are low-dose and my Dr. told me that they would allow me to get pregnant immediately once I quit taking them when we were ready). Well, the pill triggered me to start - - or something. It wasn't normal though. It lasted for approx. 24 hrs. and it was enough for the end of a q-tip to handle.  My sexual desire has diminshed and when we do have intercourse, I find myself of either not wanting it, or it just not feeling right.  I've talked to my husband and my close friends about my situation and it gets difficult - even with myself- because like most, sometimes you can't help but to think the worst regarding certain situations.  Here lately I've noticed things about myself - my moods for one. They flip flop for no apparent reason, I stay depressed, I have no desire for sex, my sleeping patterns are extremely messed up, I stay tired all the time, my breasts stay so tender, and I stay with headaches - - and there is no sign of a period :(  I'm not sure how to deal with this. Yes, I have a gyno, but I can't bring myself to go see her right now. I'm so terrified of her telling me what my gut is telling me - - that I'm going through early menopause or something is wrong with me - - and then there goes my hope/dream of having a family.  My husband isn't the one to talk to. He already has a child by a previous marriage so at times I get the idea that he could care less.  I've done a little research myself, and my symptoms are aiming directly towards early menapause.  Any advice? Any emotional support?  

I'd appreciate anything, guys.  This is hard accepting if this is indeed what i'm experiencing... and I'm honestly scared to go to the gyno. I'm not afraid of going; obviously, but I am afraid to hear what she has to tell me.

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 06:10 PM

If you have had pretty regular periods and had been on the pill, as far as I understand it, your body may need to readjust - To go back on the pill to add hormones might even be more confusing.  HOw long were you on the pill and then how long off? Sorry if you answered that already.  A lot of things affect having a period- Stress is one major issue which might be just making it worse since you are stressing about the not having the period and not being pregnant.  Another is your exercise and diet routine.  Are you not eating right and over-taxing your body? These are questions your doctors are going to ask you as well.  Your history of your cycle is another thing they will focus on.  i never had a period that wasn't brought on by hormones so obviously there is an issue there.  My sister has 4 kids and rarely has a period.  You can't be certain by reading others stories what your "diagnosis" is though.   A simple blood test can test what different hormone levels are and what your FSH level is.  This can tell you a lot.  It is better to find out earlier so maybe you can have more options for getting pregnant.  I know it is scary, because you don't want to hear bad news, but you have support here at this website- No news can be worse for your stress level, and your overall health.  Hugs to you- =)

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 06:11 PM

Ashley,

I understand what you are speaking of.  I did not want to hear it as well, noticed the symptoms but just did not want to talk about it. In fact, it took me over a year to sign up for this website - although I would sneak on and view other people's posts.  But not being a "memeber" was safe because I was not one of those.  As far as the doctor, my gut knew and when she told me - I cried like hell. It's going to be a cycle of emotions; it's a loss.  You grieve, you deny, you get angry and maybe someday you will accept.  

You do not have to "accept" this right now - meaning mentally.  I still have not in fact.  But I do feel so much better on the HRT; and even when I went on the HRT, I still did not "accept" this and just kept telling myself, I just need a little meds to feel better.

I really think though, you need to go to the Dr.; just for your everyday wellbeing.  So you can stablize your moods, increase sex drive, SLEEP, ect.  She may have some bad news and it will hurt - but you do not have to accpet the dx now.  Just try to get to feeling better and then go to the next step when you are dealing with a "full deck" if you will - mentally.

I wish you Luck~
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Posted 07 April 2008 - 06:21 PM

Ashley:
I'm sorry you are facing this kind of thing.  My heart aches for you as I am your age (relatively...I'm 27) and was faced with the possibility of this POF thing at 26 too.  It does sound like you may have a hormonal imbalance but POF isn't the only thing that can lead to this.  Do you have thyroid problems? or anything else?  If you are missing a period and take the pill or hormones it can trigger a bleed (although the pill prevents ovulation...if it's possible) but this doesn't necessarily mean fertility.  

The only way that you will overcome or know what to do for sure is to get to a doctor and get tested for these things.  I know it's hard and it's so scary to get results when it could possibly mean the worst.  But without results you will remain in the dark and have no idea how to treat your body (even if it just means taking steps to protect your bones and heart). I wish you the best in finding out what you need to.  (((((HUGS)))))) Please keep in touch and let us know what we can do.
*  age: 33 and married:  Oct 2007...he's great
* diagnosed with POF/POI: Nov 2007
* mom to twin girls born via DE IVF in December 2010;  expecting a single in October 2014 from FET #2 with donor egg.
* hypothyroid due to Graves (hyperthyroid) treated in 2005 with RAI
* went to NIH study (no longer active study) in July 08--no known cause

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 06:57 PM

In addtion to answer everyone's concern with taking the birth control pills, these pills were prescribed to me by my doctor in case I changed my mind "not to conceive" anytime soon. I only took the pills for one month and jumped off them.  That was approx. 2 yrs ago and I had been having a normal period after the fact.  I have an open prescription to still have this prescription filled when I need it - so I gave the pills a shot when I realized my period apparently had packed it's bag and left! I lead a healthy lifestyle. I'm healthy/fit, I eat right, I don't drink, I don't smoke - - so something is definitely wrong with my body and not my lifestyle.

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 08:38 PM

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 08:41 PM

Hi there Ashley820403,

Welcome to this site, though I am sorry you had a need to find us.  Ashley, I would strongly recommend that you see your doctor as soon as you can to find out what is going on with your body.  It might be early meno (EM) or premature ovarian failure (POF), but it might not.  Not having your period is not normal, paricularly at your young age, and I think you need to find out what the heck is going on, particularly if you want to have a family.

When/if you go to your doctor, you may be met with some resistence.  Having EM/POf is fairly uncommon, and doctors have been known to be reluctant to test for this.  Please ask your doctor to run Day 3 FSH, LH, & estradiol blood tests on you.  (Day 3 is the 3rd day after you start your period, with day 1 being the first day that  you start bleeding).  If you are no longer having a period at all, you can get tested any day.  You may want to have your thyroid checked, too, as this can sometimes be related factor.

Let us know how you get on.  I hope this helps.

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 09:46 PM

Thanks for the advice. I'll check into those tests. FYI : I'm not having a period anymore - for almost a year. Apparently it is on vacation somewhere  :)

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Posted 07 April 2008 - 09:56 PM

I have thyroid problems but other than that I am healthy, don't smoke, don't drink...I tried to blame my stuff on stress but blood tests said otherwise.  Bloodtests will pick up on the FSH and estradiol levels if this is you.  I hope you are able to figure out what is going on and wish you the best of luck.
*  age: 33 and married:  Oct 2007...he's great
* diagnosed with POF/POI: Nov 2007
* mom to twin girls born via DE IVF in December 2010;  expecting a single in October 2014 from FET #2 with donor egg.
* hypothyroid due to Graves (hyperthyroid) treated in 2005 with RAI
* went to NIH study (no longer active study) in July 08--no known cause

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Posted 11 April 2008 - 11:34 PM

I replied via e-mail, but I just wanted to add:

I'm going through this, too. Like you, I have other symptoms that may or may not be related, but they're not as concrete as the no periods thing. My husband says it's in my head. My sister and my mom's best friend think it's fibromyalgia (they both have it). My dad said it sounded like how he felt before he was diagnosed with diabetes (aside from the period thing, of course). My mom and my best friend, who are both hypothyroid, says it sounds like that. Most recently, my friends, my husband, and my best friend are all saying I'm depressed and urging me to push myself to do more and to go to a shrink. I even feel like people are starting to get mad at me... like I'm not doing enough by going to the doctor, getting tests done, and waiting for the results. Basically, everyone has their own take on it. I KNOW something is wrong. I'm 25 and I'm not having periods. That's NOT normal. Everything else is shutting down, too. I can't read and write very well. I can't concentrate. All I want to do is sleep. I feel exhausted all the time. That's not normal. But, honestly, I don't know whether I'm more afraid that they will find something (and that it will be horrible) or that they won't find something (and that it will all be in my head).

It takes courage to go to the doctor and start the process of getting a diagnosis. And, even when you do start that process, it takes fortitude to stick it out. I understand being scared. No one can force you to go to the doctor and get checked out. We're all behind you, though, and we're all wishing for the best. It sounds like your friends and family are, too. No one can force you to go until you're ready. It's a long process, though, so maybe don't think of going to the doctor as the big, definitive step. Instead, maybe you could try thinking of it as the first little baby step toward getting better.

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Posted 11 August 2012 - 03:26 AM

I was just diagnosed on Wed 08/08/2012 with early menopause. I haven't had a period in 2 yrs. Have hot flashes, mood swings, low libido, dry skin, and trouble sleeping. I suspected something was wrong and the doctors with testing (vaginal ultra sounds, LH, FSH, and other hormone testing) have diagnosed me (I went to a fertility specialist). It is a relief to know I am not crazy and that all this I have been feeling is not all in my head. I feel like my body is out of control and am looking forward to trying HRT to relieve my symptoms and to prevent bone weakness. I am sad about the possibility of never having children. This news still has not sunk in, my husband is in denial, and I do not have anyone to talk to about this. I do not want to tell my family or friends. But I need somewhere to vent and to talk to women that can relate. I am glad I found this board.