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#1 TigerLily


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Posted 15 July 2008 - 05:59 AM

I am new here.  I have never posted on these boards before.  And, I have read the rules and terms of this site.  However, I have not yet been officialy diagnosed.  Although I've been having symptoms that have concerned me for a while, I'm too scared (and slightly embarassed) to see my doctor.  I don't want to offend or upset anyone, I just have no idea where to turn for advice.  I am in my early 20's and I was always regular since I got my first period when I was 11, until about 10 months ago.  Then my periods started lasting for only 1 day, and for the past 3 months only half a day.  I have also had other symptoms recently, such as hot flashes.  I am very scared and dont know what to do,  I pray that someone can give me some advice or insight in what I am struggling with.

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Posted 15 July 2008 - 02:11 PM

Hi TigerLily,

Welcome to this site, though I am sorry you had to find us here.  Thanks for your post.  I think it can be a little scary going to the doctor with a problem like this, especially when you are so very young.  But I think you must go.  If you're periods have stopped or become erratic, this is an indicator that something isn't quite right in your system.  It could be something like premature ovarian failure or it could be related to a thyroid problem or something else entirely.  

Please try not to feel embarassed.  I am sure your doctor sees many, many people who have any number of different ailments.  

Best of luck - & please keep us posted how things are going for you.

Symptoms @ age 34 when I went off BCPs.
Married Jan 2007.  Dx EM/POF in April 2007 while TTC.
DE/IVF July 1/08 - now Mom to 2 yr old.

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Posted 16 July 2008 - 11:26 PM

I just want to echo Scout:
Don't be nervous about seeing the doctor- I know it is scary.  Just going to the GYN for reg pap can be distressing. One thing to note:  think about what you would tell someone you love that is having a health problem- You probably know the answer.  That you would hope and pray they did go to the doctor.  Sometimes we don't treat ourselves as well as we should, and put it off.  I know I have done this.
Take care of you, just as scout says most doctors are not shocked at anything and if they do rub you the wrong way, don't let that derail you.  See someone else.  Also put a list of questions together and ask them.  I know this is something I have trouble remembering to do.  For example, ask for possible reasons, what tests they are going to run, when you will get the results, how you will get the results, and if they give a percription what is it and what are the side effects and if there are other options etc.  Don't feel like your being pushy-Again you deserve great care!
Take care,

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Posted 17 July 2008 - 01:37 AM

Hi Tigerlily and another welcome from me!

I'm sorry to think you could have a problem such as this, and this is certainly the place for sounding out such concerns! Please don't feel you are offending or upsetting anyone with your queries. We're happy to help you however we can.

Can I second (and third!) the suggestions made about biting the bullet and discussing this all with your doctor. Hopefully your doc won't be dismissive about your concerns (as some of our young members here have unfortunately found!)  Premature menopause does happen to women in their teens and twenties also, as we all too sadly know here!

If it's a family doctor you might see first off, then a referral to a gynaecologist or an RE (reproductive endocrinologist - a doctor that specialises in reproductive hormone concerns) would be your best option. This site's founder, Kathy, has an excellent information page on what tests to run to determine if POF/EM could be a concern for you. Have a read! http://www.earlymenopause.com/tests.htm

Please take care of yourself Tigerlily - and let us know what you decide to do and find out. If the news is as you suspected, then know you'll be in welcome, crazy company here!  :)

Best wishes!

-Primary amenorrhea due to chromosomal defect ..diagnosed@ tender age of 16
-On bcps/hrt for 30+ years!!! (Lions, and tigers, and bears! Oh, my!)....and still doing fine!
-Current HRT is 2mg oral estradiol daily and then Duphaston for 12 days every 3 months, for a quarterly bleed.  
-Happily (most of the time!) married to the same great guy for countless years (Yikes!!)...but no family, even though we've tried DE/IVF 4 times!
-Am living a great, healthy, fulfilling life despite my diagnosis...with great companions along the way!....(Tinman! Scarecrow! Where are you?)

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